Wednesday, January 25, 2006
In this age, we had come across many adults and many of us could not understand what is wrong with the adults and why they treated us this way of that way, hence, it is important to know how to communicate with them. Here are some steps that I have taken to communicate with them, especially parents.
1) It is important to tell them that you are upset over somethings that they did to you. For instance, when they scold you over trival things, you could tell them that you would like to do things you way and would have the same results.
2) It is also important to keep your mouth shut and not retort back. If you retort, you are creating more trouble. Allow them to scold and venge all their accumulated anger on you, after that, you explain and be very polite in telling them. Sometimes, when they do not want you to talk at all, you will either (a)let them scold you until you fill their emptiness or (b)do your homework or schoolwork while they scold you. There is no need for you to feel betrayed and insist that you are innocent, you just have to take it the 'adult' way, take in what they have to say and after they finish, you start.
3) If your parents are stingy, there is no need to baragin with them. There are many ways that you could get money from them which is indirectly. If you have grandparents or close relative, you could take money from them, and ultimately, it came back to your parents.
4) Always be polite to them and pretend to give your attention to them. Some parents are attention seekers so it is important for you to give them some attention so that they will feel that you have them in your presence.
5) Always act like an adult and handle things like an adult. Do not, I repeat, do not do something foolish that endanger your life or any criminal acts because if you do so, they will always treat you like a child and I mean,always.
6) Let them do things their way and you do things your way.It important to let them have it their way even you know it is wrong because they want to prove their usefulness in the family even they have no knowledge of things.
7) Be neutral about things around. There is no need for you to get very emotional over things that they have done to you. You do things your way and let them be the critic even you know some are sweeping statements. It is important to keep your mouth shut and not bother about them. Afterall, you are going to be an adult. You should take their critism as a part of your life as when you go into the society, you will be critised non stop, hence take their bullets like a man, and you can handle it.
8) Be honest, if you do not know anything, just tell them you do not know. If you want them to stop talking or giving advices to you, just tell them nicely like, 'as much as you want to give advices, I am not in the mood to talk to you now and now, I really need your support to get me through this'. This way, they will understand about your situation and trust me, it works for me.
9) Be independent or do not seek help until when required. Do things on your own. Prompt yourselves to do things before they request it. Take yourselves seriously and choose your own path, not letting them interfer in your life. Remember, be independent and not dependent.
1) It is important to tell them that you are upset over somethings that they did to you. For instance, when they scold you over trival things, you could tell them that you would like to do things you way and would have the same results.
2) It is also important to keep your mouth shut and not retort back. If you retort, you are creating more trouble. Allow them to scold and venge all their accumulated anger on you, after that, you explain and be very polite in telling them. Sometimes, when they do not want you to talk at all, you will either (a)let them scold you until you fill their emptiness or (b)do your homework or schoolwork while they scold you. There is no need for you to feel betrayed and insist that you are innocent, you just have to take it the 'adult' way, take in what they have to say and after they finish, you start.
3) If your parents are stingy, there is no need to baragin with them. There are many ways that you could get money from them which is indirectly. If you have grandparents or close relative, you could take money from them, and ultimately, it came back to your parents.
4) Always be polite to them and pretend to give your attention to them. Some parents are attention seekers so it is important for you to give them some attention so that they will feel that you have them in your presence.
5) Always act like an adult and handle things like an adult. Do not, I repeat, do not do something foolish that endanger your life or any criminal acts because if you do so, they will always treat you like a child and I mean,always.
6) Let them do things their way and you do things your way.It important to let them have it their way even you know it is wrong because they want to prove their usefulness in the family even they have no knowledge of things.
7) Be neutral about things around. There is no need for you to get very emotional over things that they have done to you. You do things your way and let them be the critic even you know some are sweeping statements. It is important to keep your mouth shut and not bother about them. Afterall, you are going to be an adult. You should take their critism as a part of your life as when you go into the society, you will be critised non stop, hence take their bullets like a man, and you can handle it.
8) Be honest, if you do not know anything, just tell them you do not know. If you want them to stop talking or giving advices to you, just tell them nicely like, 'as much as you want to give advices, I am not in the mood to talk to you now and now, I really need your support to get me through this'. This way, they will understand about your situation and trust me, it works for me.
9) Be independent or do not seek help until when required. Do things on your own. Prompt yourselves to do things before they request it. Take yourselves seriously and choose your own path, not letting them interfer in your life. Remember, be independent and not dependent.
what we could have been, 7:20 PM.
